This is the first in what I hope will be a series of interviews with introverts. The format is simple, just three questions that I hope will help other introverts to connect and thrive. I am thrilled Alauna agreed to go first and I cannot thank her enough for taking part.
Alauna is passionate about cultivating community and supportive sisterhood and as a creative, works extensively with crystals. Please do take the time to scroll down for Alauna’s details and to find out more about her work.
How do you form networks and connect with others as an introvert?
I do quite a bit of in-person group work through monthly women’s circles. As an introvert this allows me to connect with multiple people all at once for a few hours. I am quite passionate about building community and connection amongst women, but I don’t have the capacity for one on one work. Offering group sessions allows me to prepare and be engaged for a few hours without having to maintain an ongoing practice of engaging with people for hours everyday.
I also think that the power of the internet and social media has allowed many introverts to build and engage with their communities on terms that better suit our need for solitude and downtime. For me, it has permitted me to share from the heart and connect with people online. If I am having a hard day, I can simply put my phone down or shut off my computer and come back to things later on when I am feeling more settled. Having flexibility and freedom are extremely important for me.
Which of your strengths as an introvert do you value most and how do you use this in your work?
I feel that I am continually reflecting and contemplating my own feelings and thoughts. I am a deep thinker and sharing my own challenges, quirks, wounds, and how I try to assimilate them creates a lot of self-awareness. We are all just trying to make sense of this crazy world and it can feel so daunting. If we can begin with ourselves, that feels much more empowering to me. It feels so much more doable to implement some small changes in my inner world than attempting to influence the greater outer world. I feel that this quote sums up so much of what I try to do in my work “We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” – Mahatma Gandhi
I deeply value integrity and authenticity. This is often the foundation and commonality that is woven into my work. Doing the right thing and being open about my struggles has been imperative for my own personal growth and that of my business.
What is your number one tip for succeeding as an introvert?
I think the biggest key is self-awareness. Know yourself and your needs. For me, I have to balance my workshops with something creative. My creative work fills my cup and is really fluid. I completely go with the flow when it comes to my creative offerings and work when I am inspired. My group sessions are more structured and can sometimes have me feeling a bit depleted. It’s vital for me to carve out adequate downtime and solitude following events where I need to interact and engage.